Some of Swift’s most beloved songs are heart breaking — and that can be helpful, experts said. Lionel Hahn/Getty Images
Fans were waiting on bated breath for the emotional torment they were sure would come from “The Tortured Poets Department,” Taylor Swift’s 11th studio album.
And she delivered with a double album.
The first release since the end of Swift’s six-year relationship was announced, “The Tortured Poets Department” captured the anger, sadness, longing, and confusion fans love in a good breakup song.
She sang about having held her breath since her love left her, her heart breaking when he pretended to put a ring on her wedding finger, and him being the loss of her life – the kind of pain listeners may turn away from in life but sometimes seek out in their music.
Experts say it is normal and often helpful to connect with heartbreaking music, and Swift even shared her own philosophy in an Instagram post about the album.
“This writer is of the firm belief that our tears become holy in the form of ink on a page,” she said. “Once we have spoken our saddest story, we can be free of it.”
Something bad, but why does it feel so good?
If you’ve seen a performance of “All Too Well,” you know that Swifties take great joy in scream singing the most heartbreaking parts.
Why does it feel so good? Catharsis and validation, said Arianna Galligher, director of the Gabbe Well-Being Office and of the Stress, Trauma and Resilience (STAR) Program at The Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center.
It is beneficial to have an avenue to explore the more painful emotions and to feel like it is OK because other people have and are experiencing them too, she said.
Even if you aren’t in the midst of a breakup yourself, tapping back into those emotions from past experiences can help, said Dr. Jaryd Hiser, psychologist at The Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center.
“We all fall into this trap of avoidance of these emotions,” he said. “To be able to go back to those, think of it as a processing of that time.”
That process may lead to more acceptance of those experiences and that it is OK if you never fully feel OK about them, he added.
Music bringing peace
The music may be key in making people, who otherwise wouldn’t feel safe visiting those difficult experiences and emotions, revisit them, Hiser said.
“I think of it as being a really easy way into mindfulness,” he said. “If we were able to be mindful all the time, that would be great, but most of us can’t … tap into that.”
He likes to work with patients on mindfulness by pairing it with activities they enjoy – because it is a lot easier to stay in the present when you are doing something you like, he said.
“Those types of things that can kind of draw us in and let us be with our emotions in that moment,” Hiser added.
Heartbreak is Swift’s national anthem
Swift’s success when it comes to her breakup songs may come from the nuance that she holds in her writing, Galligher said.
While there may be grief and loss in her writing, there also tends to be themes of empowerment in her work, she added.
